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QUESTION: Should I, as a Social Worker, SUPPORT “SAFE-SEX” EDUCATION for SINGLES??

Posted by Gabriel (G²) on January 17, 2008

To anyone who’lll read this,

I am writing this because I’ma Human Service major and plan on workning in the field soon, and one of the issues that has always bothered me concerning HUMAN SERVICES is the promotion of SAFE-SEX.

I’m bothered because it seems that many in trying to deal with the issue of promiscuity seem to think that the giving of lubricants/condoms and telling kids to be safe will solve the issue when it seems that it has done nothing of the sort……and that when it comes to abstenince, what is mostly heard is “Well, that’s okay but kids aren’t goin gto listen and will do it anyway….so you might as well give options”

 Granted, I’m trying my best to make sure that I’m keeping principles such as these in mind:

Titus 3

Doing What is Good

 1Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good, 2to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and to show true humility toward all men.

Love

 9Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. 10Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. 11Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. 12Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. 13Share with God’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.

 14Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. 16Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position.[c] Do not be conceited.

 17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,”[d]says the Lord. 20On the contrary:
   “If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
      if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
   In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”[e] 21Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

However, whenever the issue comes up, I cannot help but get real irritated at the thought of what often seems to be making peace with the things people promote that I know are harming THOUSANDS of youths every day.

Though I could say more/plan to LATER, I was wondering what anyone else thought of the issue…..for I’m bound to face it sonner or later and I don’t wish to promote something that I’ve seen to add to the damage moreso that aid in reversing it (IMO)…and it all things, I want to make sure that I’m following the BIBLICAL MODEL for how to work with individuals struggling with the issue but who may not be saved and hear what the WORD has to say on it…….AND to be honest, though I have many solid resouces/experiences on the issue, I’m still wondering what to do when actually in the situation practically and how I could EFFECTIVELY teach ABSTINENCE/PURITY as the best and ONLY WORTHWILE option to consider to the individuals I’ll encounter.

         In discussing this issue elsewhere, these are some of the things which were said to me:

bstinence is the best way to go but knowledge is always powerful. Singles should at least be educated about the facts.

Maybe an interesting article for you: http://www.bmj.com/cgi/content/extract/335/7613/217

IMHO you need to promote abstinence (forget the Purity, you are going into a secular occupation for probably a secular employer). The reasoning for abstinence of course is prevention of STD’s. Just show those you council how a STD can ruin the rest of their life.

If you wish to promote your abstinance/purity stance, you need to work for a religious organization, not the state. Then you can legally point out that this is what God desires. If you push “purity” in a secular organization you will only cause yourself grief,

 DG,

It is for you a great opportunity to speak you heart of truth and by what your employment requires of you,,should do your job as required.

Remember in the WoG that the Lord says follow the laws of Casear which is Casear’s, but follow the laws of God that are of God.

In my opinion I would still do my job requirements as should, but I would have an conversation of other methods of help that can apply to safe sex.. and we all know with the truth, that is the best way~

Just the point that if you really need your job or not.. or you will be in a situation,(depending on person) of whom your employer is,,, whom handles it.

What and where ever your heart directs you.. I would do.
(I pray that all will work out for the best) in your employment,,,,

Blesssings,
Osita

try( if you are able) to approach the issue like this.

Begin by telling them that there is no such thing as safe sex.
When they balk at that, as them if anyone of them would have sex with someone that they knew to have aides as long as a condom was used.

They will all say no. And then you can ask them why?

After all, isn’t a condom the magic solution to disease?
Ask them to consider why they would not have sex with a known aids carrier if they are so sure a condom is really safe.
And then they will begin to perhaps understand that safe sex isn’t so safe after all.
It’s really just ignorant sex and lets hope it all turns out alright.

We can’t ask people who do not believe to abide by God’s standard of sex but it may be a good opportunity to illustrate God’s purpose for sex And if you start talking about sex and how God is all for it (but has a plan for it), you will surprisingly have the attention of many young people.

! You should educate them about safe-sex. Condoms have been demonstrated as effective in reducing the chances of unwanted pregnancies and STDs time and time again.
Studies show that abstinence-based sex education DOES NOT lower STDs nor unwanted pregnancy rates

“Sexual abstinence only programmes to prevent HIV infection in high income countries: systematic review
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Results The search identified 13 trials enrolling about 15 940 US youths. All outcomes were self reported. Compared with various controls, no programme affected incidence of unprotected vaginal sex, number of partners, condom use, or sexual initiation. One trial observed adverse effects at short term follow-up (sexually transmitted infections, frequency of sex) and long term follow-up (sexually transmitted infections, pregnancy) compared with usual care, but findings were offset by trials with non-significant results. Another trial observed a protective effect on incidence of vaginal sex compared with usual care, but this was limited to short term follow-up and countered by trials with non-significant findings. Heterogeneity prevented meta-analysis.Conclusion: Programmes that exclusively encourage abstinence from sex do not seem to affect the risk of HIV infection in high income countries, as measured by self reported biological and behavioural outcomes.” [read more]

(Sexual abstinence only programmes to prevent HIV infection in high income countries: systematic review. Underhill K, Montgomery P, Operario D. BMJ. 2007 Aug 4;335(7613):248. Epub 2007 Jul 26.)

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  As a Christian you should promote the word of God, no matter the cost. We are called to carry our cross.

The problem is: If you have a state job, even though the verbage is correct to say that sin will lead them to hell if the don’t repent, you cannot say that and expect to keep your job. That is just the facts of life.

If you feel the need to warn the people you are counciling that they are sinning, then you either need to work for yourself, or a religious organization that will allow that type of speech.

You need to keep in mind what the restrictions of the position are that are put there by the employer.

Well, I personally would vote for abstinence and once I have children I am going to bring them up bearing that in mind. I also recommend it to others but still I know that there are a lot of people out there who don’t care and from public health view I am definitely for educating people about condoms and such. There is no need to spread HIV more widley only because we assume atheists and luke warm Christians an whoever would agree with us. Of course this is no reason to stop acting according to it nor to not recommend it anylonger. It doesn’t only take sex to aquire HIV. At my work I could possibly aquire HIV by cutting myself or by needlestick injuries. I would prefer my patients to be HIV negative then. People better should not fornicate but if they do, please, don’t make it worse by spreading STI.

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I think one of the reasons it might be so hard to get people to choose abstinance is that they have been steeped in the “We are animals, lets follow our primal instincts,” and “Just do it if it feels good” mentality. Any suggestion that they put off sexual pleasure is sometimes met with resistance. If it doesn’t make you lose your job, you could always take the young person to the STD ward of a hospital or clinic, and show them the consequences of what could happen from sex. Especially have them talk to the doctors too, and any patients who don’t mind sharing their stories. If that doesn’t scare the crud out of them and bring them to the real world, nothing will.

The problem is that conservatives don’t realize that sexuality is part of being a human. It is not something that can be turned on and off like a light switch. HUMANS ARE SEXUAL BEINGS, its that simple.

Humans are also violent, territorial, selfish, cruel, covetous, arrogant, proud and any number of other kinds of beings as well.
Should we not worry or bother to try to curb all of those desires?

Or just allow ourselves to become those things as the fancy hits us so to say as they are all part of the human psyche?

Do we live as animals and simply mate when the desire is there?
Or try to live as the sentient, thinking beings that we are supposed to be?

I don’t disagree with that. But unlike animals, we have the power to resist our sexual impulses, and use our reasoning. I know desire cannot be completely turned off, but it shouldn’t be allowed to control us and make us do foolish things, just because we are “in heat.”

If you work for the Government, the keep your religous views to yourself. If you don’t like that then quit and work at a Church supported group. Let the Constitution be obeyed for once.

Yes, you should support it or you’ll be partly responsible for STDs and whatever results of their lack of knowledge about sex.

‘d say do what you think makes the best impact…

I agree that the notions of GIVING kids condoms and lubricants is ridiculous, but what’s even worse, is how almost all of the negative stigma associated with teen sex, teen pregnancy, homosexual activity, has been destroyed.

Many (if not most) “would be” good sensible folk out there, christian or otherwise, have not stood firm to the liberal agenda/culture war, and this is the result.

Nowadays, the whole society is a mess, and frankly, I’m not sure how I’d “fit in” with it.

To me, you either stand up and fight AGAINST these things, or you don’t get involved at all.

I am a nursing student. While I am not an expert on this subject, this is my thought:

As far as quoting “statistics” or making the statement “studies have shown that…XYZ” you need to be able to provide factual sources that can back up whatever point you’re going to make. By factual sources I mean those that are peer-reviewed – ie, not just something you found in Reader’s Digest, Christianity Today, etc. Given that you are entering this field as a college-educated individual, I’m sure you’re well aware of this.

If I were going to argue in favor of abstinence, I would simply say this: When it comes to preventing STDs and unwanted pregnancies, the method of abstinence has never failed. Ever. Not even once.

Because that is, frankly, the truth.

Having said that, however – as far as condoms go, I don’t think it’s condoms themselves that are necessarily ineffective. I think part of the “failed” protection from STDs that occurs with condom – when it occurs – is due to human error. ie, involving one or more of the following factors:

1. Improper usage of condoms during the heat of the moment (no pun intended) and/or after said moment is over (ie, softening of the organ and subsequent loosening of the condom prior to final withdrawal).

2. Having another partner(s) outside of the relationship.

3. Not using a condom, and after later realizing that an STD transmission has occured, reporting to other parties concerned that a condom was used simply in order to avoid embarassment.

So basically I think abstinence makes sense as a failproof mechanism. But I don’t think condoms are necessarily wrong in and of themselves; I think it’s simply that people have to take responsibility for their own protection, regardless of what method(s) they use. Obviously, the more likely you are to pursue a monogamous, protected relationship, the better off you will be. Even in a monogaous relationship, however, you still have to practice abstinence – ie, abstaining from sex with other individuals – and you still have to utilize some form of ongoing protection from pregnancy, unless that is something you and your partner are prepared for.

In order for abstinnce to work you have to make an informed effort. It is not some sort of magical get-out-of-sin-free card. You still have to take the same ultimate responsibility as you do when you use condoms or other methods.

You may want to consider getting additional career training on this subject so that you can approach it in a way that you feel more confident about.

I think you need to reword the question. What can you, as a Christian, do in your field? What are your boundaries as a Christian?IMHO, giving kids condoms, birth control pills, etc gives a loud message to the kids that we don’t think they are capable of controling themselves, that their sexual urges are too powerful for them to be expected to resist.

Wrong message.

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Double G, I am so with you on this. God said sex is for marriage only. This is not taught anymore. How would our kids even know about it nowadays with condoms and birth control being forced upon them? Sex is not that hard to resist for single people, not even adults. The adults are making up excuses for themselves and ruining the kids. God blessed us with enough self control. You want to have sex? Get married. By teaching kids to have safe sex(which is basically teaching them to have sex, instead of to wait), future sex addicts are being created. They won’t understand the full concept of commitment, and they will believe fornication is okay. A child can’t fully grasp that thinking about sex so often can corrupt the heart and mind. They need to be taught to wait, and it’s up to adults to teach them.
How many of the folks you’ll come in contact with will have sex regardless of whatever abstinence teaching they do or do not hear?How many of those are someone’s daughter, son, mother, father, sister, or brother?

How effective is abstinence education in preventing pre-marital sex? How much higher is it for Christians than non-Christians?

How effective is abstinence education in preventing pregnancy and the spread of STD’s; compared to safe-sex education? Compared to a combination safe-sex, but abstinence is better curriculum?

How effective is condom use without proper instruction on how to use them?

How many people who know the actual efficacy rate of condoms in preventing pregancy and disease loose respect for Christians and Christ when they hear Christians spouting hysterical and innaccurate statistics about how uneffective condom use is?

How many people who die of AIDs will become Christians?

How many kids born to irresponsible people who didn’t use a condom one time will grow up to become positive contributors to society? How many will grow up to be Christians? How many will grow up to be social problems?

Again, those were the responses that were given to me thus far. And though I do appreciate them, I’d still be VERY MUCH INTERESTED in hearing from those of you who actually read my blog (whoever you are, since ya’ll RARELY COMMENT, lol, lol).
        Again, if you have any thoughts, I’d love to hear sometime……
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4 Responses to “QUESTION: Should I, as a Social Worker, SUPPORT “SAFE-SEX” EDUCATION for SINGLES??”

  1. i have 5 children. the oldest is male, 22. i’ve never had a so-called safe-sex talk with him. one message only, keep your pants on and don’t have sex outside of marriage. i am a Christian and i’m not going to help anyone sin. i’m not going to teach my children that i understand their “need” to fornicate because of the surge of hormones racing through their bodies. wanting sex, is not the same as NEEDING food, clothing, and shelter. i will not say to my children, if you want to disobey God’s laws, here, let me tell you how to do it in a way that “minimizes” the risks and consequences. that is my stance, and i don’t apologize for it. he knows there are stds out there, if he wants to play sexual russian roulette, and he bites the bullet, it’s on him. i will feel badly if that happens to him because i want my children to live long, healthy, productive lives.(i don’t consider being on meds for the rest of your life, the epitome of health) so far, God has been merciful to him- his aids test came back negative, and he’s not an un-wed father. i sure hope he didn’t co-conspire with some girl to commit murder through abortion which has been my secondary stance. if you fornicate, you sin. having a baby is not sinful, so don’t compound your sin. don’t kill the baby.
    i’m straight forward in my approach with my children- they know moms, no doubt about it. no girlfriends in the room (and certainly no sleeping over), no drugs, no BET, MTV, crap music. if they feel that i’m too restrictive and oppressive- too bad, i let them know there’s plenty of therapists out there willing to take their money to hear them gripe about their old-fashioned mother. i lose no sleep worrying about what they think. as long as they think outside of the Word of God, we will be at variance. my prayer is Lord, please open my children’s eyes and make Yourself real to them, they need You in their lives. please don’t let them leave this world without Your gift of salvation.
    as for you gg, if the job is going to call for you to compromise for the sake of $$, then let it go. a little leaven leavens the whole lump. is there any thing to hard for God? can’t He provide for you a position in which you don’t violate your conscience by promoting “options” that encourage people to behave sinfully? stand for what Jesus would stand for. let the world hand out the condoms (and “clean” needles) so that they can appease people in their sin. we’re called to be salt and light.
    blessings & peace 2 u, mav.

  2. dunamis2 said

    Emissary/ Easy G (G²)~ You are puttin’ in the WORK over here 4-REAL! Thank God for you…

    Just a little on the issue with the condoms and social work…I understand your dilemma on this whole issue. If I can, I’d like to address it in the most practical way possible…In this situation you are dealing with an organization that has a completely different world-view and will not facilitate the answer that we both know is right and profitable for the clients. If you were not there, the “flood gate” would be open upon all of the young people and none would have the immediate godly influence of your presence or prayers…If you dispense condoms, you could be encouraging sin…So what do you do?

    First pray. Confirm the will of God for you in this organization. Once that is confirmed or if you’ve already done that, look for opportunities in which your faith will not be violated. ie: Look for opportunities to disengage yourself when it comes to the violation of your principles of faith. The Lord said this…

    1 Cor. 10:13~ “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”

    If we interpret temptation to be testing here which that’s what it is ~peirasmos { pi-ras-mos}~ adversity, affliction, trouble: sent by God and serving to test or prove one’s character, faith, holiness.
    Enhanced Strong’s Lexicon, (Oak Harbor, WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc.) 1995.

    Then with that “test” God is able to make a way of escape for you. God knows you got bills and you are not seeking to lower yourself to the culture or endorse it…Now, the Lord may say “leave” all together, that’ll be fine too, but if he allows you to stay, you just make up your mind NOT to bend or bow, Mr. Hebrew Boy (LOL) because the greater blessing is the protection, spiritual advice and information that you’re dispensing while you’re on the job following the leading of the Lord.

    Some may call me unspiritual with an answer like that, but if we take too hard of a line then we should all quit our jobs at these ungodly corporations because they all feed into an anti-christ system and world order. So excluding ourselves is simply not practical and is not the answer, unless God says “GO”!

    God bless my brother.

  3. To Sis Mav and Bro Dunamis2,

    Thank you to both for your responses. To let both of you know, I asked some of the same questions I brought on this site up to those from another discussion forum I visit….and I’d like to share them with both of you.

    Well I think a lot of the issue is calling it safe sex. There really is no such thing. Sex is safest in a committed marriage of one man and one woman. If one is going to use the term safe sex, it really should be used for sex withing marriage.

    I also think you can get the idea across and not really be promoting sex outside marriage, while still as a public health worker working to limit the damage of sex outside marriage.

    So called safe sex is really a lot like driving your car into a brick wall. If you are going to do that, you should indeed have your seatbelt fastened, and have a vehicle with airbags. But that doesn’t mean it’s safe crashing. It’s just less likely to kill you, but it’s still quite possible to get hurt or killed even if you use equipment to make that less likely.

    And I don’t think that a lot of safe sex presentations really do a good job of presenting the difficulties that extramarital sex cause. One of the problems is that people don’t really get to know each other, and they marry or live with the person. And it’s actually someone that if they weren’t having sex, they would find that it’s really not someone they want to spend their life with. But for most, sex entails emotional attachment and so many end up with partners who really aren’t suitable for them.

    And the emotional aspect that happens when sex is involved. Breaking up tends to be more damaging. Staying together often tends to be more damaging. Extramarital sex is often rationalized as a good way to find if you are compatible but in practice, it’s quite the opposite. Divorce is higher among those who engage in premarital sex.

    So there’s the whole emotional thing that results in a lot of damaged people walking around often doing their best to spread more hurt.

    And being in public health, how many do you think actually practice “safe sex”. I don’t think many. For instance how many use barriers all the time even for such things as oral sex which is very possible to spread disease.

    So I think you can present the facts. Point out that safe sex would mean waiting for marriage. Tell then the truth about the diseases and the pregancies that result, tell them the emotional problems that result too.

    Extramarital sex is dumb and risky, extramarital sex without doing the best one can to make it safer is double dumb and very risky.Marv
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    Re: Should I, as a CHRISTIAN Social Worker, SUPPORT “SAFE-SEX” ?
    by Gideon on Thu Jan 17, 2008 7:55 pm

    Not to mention the eternal implications of so-called “safe sex.”

    Ephesians 5:3-5
    3 But among you there must not be either sexual immorality, impurity of any kind, or greed, as these are not fitting for the saints. 4 Neither should there be vulgar speech, foolish talk, or coarse jesting – all of which are out of character – but rather thanksgiving. 5 For you can be confident of this one thing: that no person who is immoral, impure, or greedy (such a person is an idolater) has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Context (NET)
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    Re: Should I, as a CHRISTIAN Social Worker, SUPPORT “SAFE-SEX” ?
    by dcljoy on Thu Jan 17, 2008 9:57 pm

    there are two ways you can approach this issue …. and it is something that requires much prayer as well as godly Christian advice. But only you can decide if this is something you can do in a way that honors your Lord or if you should seek alternate employment. A case could be made for both decisions.

    If you decide to stay in your job, and use it as an opportunity to serve, then Marv’s suggestions are very good and practical. …. use the opportunity to give them all the options … and tell them the down side of promiscuous sex …. especially for girls. And also tell them of the benefits of sex according to the Maker’s instructions.

    in Christ

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    Re: Should I, as a CHRISTIAN Social Worker, SUPPORT “SAFE-SEX” ?
    by pastorjohn on Thu Jan 17, 2008 10:29 pm

    I work in Public Assistance. I may not tell someone that it is wrong to have sex out of marriage unless they tell me that are a Christian and want to know the Christian position.

    I may tell them that having babies early makes one poor. I can tell them that having babies young will likely make their babies poor. I can tell them about the diseases and confusion that may arise from what we would call promiscuity. I can look at a girl having her 2nd or 3rd out baby f wedlock baby and ask her – Do you know how this happened? I may tell them that all the data says that a child will develop in a healtier way if both parent are involved – even if one parent is only OK.

    I can get some girls a lot of help – and if they say they have a connection to a church or are in some way Christian – I may guide them to a faith based entity.

    You may usually substitute unprofitable or unwise for sinful and give good guidance. sometimes I do wish I could preach, but then if I was preaching – they would not be there.

    A note of caution – make sure that your employer – whether public or private will let you speak the truth – even if it may br framed in non-religious language.

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    Re: Should I, as a CHRISTIAN Social Worker, SUPPORT “SAFE-SEX” ?
    by Rene on Thu Jan 17, 2008 11:59 pm

    Social Work’s early history was closely tied with the enforcement of “moral” behaviors to the clients served…which led to the ultimate separation of the discipline from it’s faith friendly roots. It is far too easy to confuse ones own moral sensibility with what is best for the client….which is clearly a violation of the ethical standards put forth by the NASW. Every professional has a right, and obligation, to live by their own moral standards and to clearly set boundaries for what one will and will not do in their professional practice. The issue becomes what right do you (me or anybody else) have the right to force your moral standards on the clients? Paternalism toward the client is always right until someone forces us to live by their standards….then it is a different matter. Faith can have a central role in the practice of social work, but only if one a truly acts in a Christ like way. Remember…forgive them for they know not what they do.Theology is the fine art of making simple facts complex assertions. Rene

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    Re: Should I, as a CHRISTIAN Social Worker, SUPPORT “SAFE-SEX” ?
    by Jim on Fri Jan 18, 2008 6:56 pm

    I think that you should simply tell the truth, which is that the only safe sex is no sex, and that condom sex is safer than non-condom sex. Whether one is a Christian or a Jew or a Moslem or a Hindu or an atheist, this is the truth. But if you’re not satisfied with simply telling the truth and you feel an obligation to go beyond this simple truth and to try to persuade people to adopt your religious beliefs, then you’re pursuing the wrong line of work, and you should become a preacher instead of a social worker.

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    Re: Should I, as a CHRISTIAN Social Worker, SUPPORT “SAFE-SEX” ?
    by RevLewis on Fri Jan 18, 2008 8:51 pm

    Just a personal aside/soapbox issue. I think the whole “they will do it anyways” excuse is a problem. Have you noticed that most kids (teens included) work hard to meet their parents/teachers/youth pastor’s expectations? As a youth pastor I was expected to preach abstinence, but I went further, I let the kids know that I believed that they would stay away from promiscuity.
    As I look back on my teen years, I can of many times when temptation (and opportunity) presented itself. At times only the knowledge that my parents would be disappointed stopped me. I know that God was with me, His Holy Spirit guiding me…but I believe He used my parent’s expectations.Rev. David Lewis
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    Re: Should I, as a CHRISTIAN Social Worker, SUPPORT “SAFE-SEX” ?
    by 03cobra#116 on Fri Jan 18, 2008 9:44 pm

    I think this is a little like asking:
    Should I, as a Christian real estate agent, sell a house to a gay couple?
    Should I, as a Christian grocery store clerk, sell beer to an adult?
    Should I, as a Christian police officer, arrest a person for breaking the law in an antiabortion protest?

    I think the answer is that we are not to judge the world as if they are believers. If you can’t fulfill your responsibilities to your employer in good conscience, then you should change jobs.

    That doesn’t mean you can’t do all you can to influence people the right way within the constraints of doing your job. And the better you do your job and the more dedicated you are to it, the more latitude you will have in influencing others the right way.

  4. Nicole said

    These are all very long responses, so I don’t know if mine will be helpful or anything that no one has yet said. Hopefully you will value you my opinion as Christian college student who believes in and struggles with abstinence, and who spends most of my time surrounded by people who either believe in abstinence but don’t practice it perfectly or who see no problem with sleeping with their girlfriends/boyfriends. Right now I would sadly say is true in many or perhaps most cases that youth are having sex no matter what they are told. I don’t believe it has to be this way, but it will take a lot of honest evaluation and radical changes in our entire culture to make a difference. We need grassroots movements started by people like you who see and believe in other options. Meanwhile, maybe safe sex to some extent is a very sad but necessary evil to keep these kids from getting STDs or getting pregnant and possibly aborting their children. In this world, I’m afraid we often have to choose between the lesser of two evils.

    My advice for talking to youth about the subject is to always approach with an attitude of love and understanding rather than judgment or even guidance. Sometimes it’s helpful to suggest your views as possibilities instead of absolutes, even if you believe they are absolutes. It’s less abrasive and people might listen to you more. I would go ahead and promote safe sex in line with your job requirements, but personally promote abstinence to them as the SAFEST plan. Emphasize the emotional and mental damage that reckless sex can cause, and that no other form of protection has any bearing on those very real consequences. Blessings on your efforts!

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